Blocking

I was reminded today about an amazing event that happened in my life several months ago. It was a late night, about 10 or 11pm and I was out with my two sons driving around. We were putting out signs to promote my business. You know the signs that you see on utility polls on highways or locally. Yes I do put out signs. Marketing is key right. :)

Well I found the BEST location for one right at a light going onto a major highway in my area. So as I pulled over a car pulls up behind me. So I waited for the car to go pass me but he just sat there. I rolled my window down and signaled him to go around me and he just sat there. I turned around and made hand gestures to go around me and he just sat there. So I just sat there.  Now this was about 4 minutes in and I won't lie, I was getting very scared. Then I turned my head around towards him and I could see him making hand gestures at me. Now I became angry and I was yelling in the car, "this idiot has to be drunk" and if you really know me I do have a bid of stubbornness when I want something and I wanted my sign on that pole.

So, I bust a U-Turn so the car would be in front of me... And what happened next made my jaws drop to the floor and tears flooded my eyes. That man pulled off but instead of going onto the highway like I expected, he pulled in his driveway. What was the likely hood of me being in front of his house and blocking his driveway. He's driveway was the LAST house before the highway.
I thought this man was drunk, I thought he was an idiot,  My thoughts were wrong! Dead wrong. Of course my kids were totally confused to why I was crying. You also maybe confused to why I was crying... So I'll tell you what I told my boys....

If I thought he was all of what I though he was and ended up being an innocent man just trying to get home what else in my life could I possible see as being not good and in reality it's all good. I learned in that second my thoughts are SO POWERFUL they can distort reality. Our thoughts can distort what is to what's our. So it is true that whatever we see we are.
And Zyaire fell asleep and Zykir said, "So we can change it too the other way too right" and I said, "what do you mean? " Zykir Said, "you know like, you could next time see the man and his driveway first?" I smiled and said "YES"

"In Life We Live and We Learn and In Return We Know How To Live"

REFINE....

It's been a little while since I took the time to actually write to all of you! Happy Belated New Years to you all. I was thinking about my life the past 12 months and found that the New Year was already here and yet I was still having the same conversations I was having last year. With the same people, about the same thing damn things! I thought to myself what in the world am I missing... 

For some out of the blue reason I thought about the word REFINE... so if you are a true followers of these blogs you know that I am so in love with definitions. 


Refine- remove impurities or unwanted elements from a substance, typically as a part of an industrial process. Improve (something) by making small changes, in particular make, (an idea, theory, or method) more subtle and accurate.



Need I say more :) To refine who you are simply means to take away EVERYTHING you wish to not exists. That includes people. LOL That includes thoughts, that includes results. See you can be know for not having, always just talking and this very moment you can decide to change that if you really desire to. I have. In some people eyes I am seen as a joke, a kid, simple and just about talk. See I am at the point that I can say that I created this foolish notion. Refining myself isn't for the world, the world just helped me recognized what to get rid of so I am thankful. Refining is for me. It is for God. Remember this... regardless if you are religious or not the Bible highlights people who have done things like... murder, steal, lie, cheat, deceive, and much more and yet at the end they reigned supreme. 

What you were has NOTHING to do with who you ARE! 

REFINE YOUR LIFE!!! 

In life we live and we learn and in return we learn how to live! 

The Mirror....

 I remember once staring in the mirror was a difficult thing. I remember that taken pictures that looked really great made me feel uncomfortable. I remember when saying something I felt was the most horrifying thing. I remember when I would put an outfit on that I thought expressed who I was but it never made it out of the door because I did not want to ruffle anyone's feather. I remember when I accepted being called out of  my name. I remember when I thought, 'Why would he love me?" and it shows thru my actions when the love was true.

I remember these things and when they continue to happen I have come to this conclusion...

It's me... It's my thoughts. It's my self respect. I am the only person causing these things. If I don't like it I don't have to continue thinking it, doing it, and accepting it. 

So ladies if you feel like it's hard to look in the mirror straight in your own eyes, or when you look good you feel uncomfortable...

 Just remember you have control of changing that. It all starts with you loving you the way you really want to be loved. It starts with you treating yourself the way you want to be treated. It starts with you accepting the things that you only will accept. If you do it, think it, or accept it... YOU WILL GET IT! 

"In life we live and we learn and in return we learn how to live." 

rich before thirty 

KIDNAPPED... HELD HOSTAGE!!!

 KIDNAPPED SOMEONE HELP!!!

As always this is a pleasure to share discoveries with you. Just another week of productivity I suddenly was confronted with a mistake that I made and just was not prepared for it. You know how you do something that you can't take back but really wish you could go back and fix it but its done!

And that's what I finally realized thanks to listen to that good old Earl Nightingale

His words are, "It's in the past, it can not be changed, I am sorry, and I will forget about it" Thinking about things this way, what is the point of going back to the past? Now for me I have made mistakes in my life, BIG ONES and Little ones...

I would constantly think about my mistakes, beat myself up about them. I did not feel worthy. I felt trapped like I could not get away. I would feel like I owed the world a debt for my bad decisions.

Think about what happens when someone is Kidnapped. They are being held against there Will. There freedom is gone, they are in the hands of someone else. You would make sure you do not say the wrong thing, or make the wrong move because of the fear of the kidnapper! Thats EXACTLY what we do with the past. We are being held hostage by the PAST!!!

Lets forgive ourselves today and lets move away from the pass and press forward. As the Great JayZ would say, "don't run from the pain, go towards it"
REMEMBER the past is a foreign country they do things there!

"In Life we Live and we Learn and in return we Learn how to Live," rich before thirty

LOVE

There comes a day where you look around you and the ones that you love seem to not be the person that you thought they were. But the even scary part is when you are faced with the reality that the same situations keeps happening with  different people!!!

What is the common denominator? 

YOU YOU YOU YOU! 

See I had to be honest with myself and face the fact that I was searching for people to show me love farther than myself find love from within. See how could someone love you before you love yourself. So ladies and gents when you are having issues with your spouse, significant others, etc. its a strong possibility that it is YOU! 

It's YOU not loving yourself enough to except not being married or looked at as a partner..... 

It's YOU not loving yourself enough to allow someone to call you out of your name, negatively

It's YOU not loving yourself enough to allow people to walk all over you

It's YOU not loving yourself enough to not have a standard of what type of man/women you want in your life... 

I am committed to SOLELY focus on loving the most important person outside of God and that's me... 

When I am better my kids are better, and whosoever that lucky man may be he will then treat me better because there is NOTHING else ALLOWED to do BUT THAT!!!!

"In Life we live and we learn and in return we  learn how to live" rich before thirty


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Stretch?

STRETCH!!!! 

What are your thoughts when you hear the word stretch? For me my immediate thought is someone stretching right before exercising. So I wondered what is actually stretching?..    

Stretch- To cause to extend from one place to another or across a given space: To lengthen, widen, or distend:To reach or put forth; extend:  To make taut; tighten:

So that made me think should I stretch in other areas besides my legs, arms, back, and thighs?
Then I remembered a man that stretched. Who extended his purpose to others and effect the life's by the MILLIONS! 




Martin Luther King is one of the few who STRETCH! 

This was inspired by the recent popular "snippet" by "Billionaire Brown" founder of rich before thirty 

Take a look and really understand what it means to STRETCH....

Let's continue to STRETCH...... 

"in Life we LIVE and we LEARN and in return we LEARN how to LIVE"... rich before thirty

The Gerbil Cage....

Another day of clean up. Well thats what it seemed to be... I was cleaning the bathroom, cleaning the kitchen and then finally got to THE ROOM... my room. I am not sure why in the world I kept avoiding my room but I was. Then less than a minute or two later I was cleaning the Gerbil Cage...

WHAT HAPPENED TO CLEANING MY ROOM?

How in the world am I cleaning the Gerbil cage...

As our Founder would always say how you do anything is how you do everything. So I asked myself what else am I starting and stopping and getting so involved in that I forget what the main thing really is...

So I finished cleaning the cage and off to THE ROOM and when I completed my room I felt complete and releaved. So complete each task and NEVER MOVE ON TILL THE 1st One is COMPLETE!

"In life we live and we learn and in return we learn how to live" rich before thirty